A breakup is always a breakup; it can either make or break a person’s life. So for a person has been in hell because of a breakup, dating again is like bringing yourself into the pit of misery. That’s what we always think of it but it’s not really the case. Going out with someone new is a way of distracting yourself from that heartbreaking love experience.

So what is the best way to convince yourself to go on dating again despite the fact that you are still hurting inside? Will you continue or follow what the inside of you screams?

Talk to yourself in the mirror like you’re giving an advice to a friend. This might be a little insane to you, so talk to your inner self in a nice way. Lay the cards on the table, ask questions: What is going to happen if I keep on soaking myself in the pit of misery?

But if doesn’t sound convincing, try a more aggressive strategy. Go on a date without convincing yourself first. It can be a little harder especially if you’ve got no one in mind. If you’ve got a prospect, ask this person out. It’s better to find out earlier whether the invitation will be dumped or accepted. At least you can move to the next person if the first prospect turns down your invitation.

But if you really got no one in mind to date, you can give a speed dating a try. Maybe you’ll like the face-to-face encounter. But if not, you can still opt to something less personal – something like internet dating and social networking sites. This will give you the broader chance to look for someone of the same interests before really getting into the actual date.

It also gives you the chance to learn a little about the person on the other side of the computer screen before you decide to make it a date and meet face to face. More importantly, when you’re sifting through dating profiles and creating a profile of your own you are taking action to put yourself back in the game. This is much better than sitting on the sidelines waiting for something to happen.

It might be difficult to take those first steps towards dating after a breakup but if you force yourself to take them they will become easier to make over time.

You might learn along the way that what you really want is to begin dating your ex again. No matter how lost you fear the cause may be it is possible to get your ex girlfriend back. Where should you begin? Start with the first step I teach in this free video: http://www.magicofmakingup.com. This will certainly get the attention of your ex and that is half the battle.